The mental health system, formally referred to as the medical model, (now called the RECOVERY model) and the laws, which keep his civil liberties intact, are allowing my son, (who I will call Joe) to die a slow death!
Joe's right to say no to treatment for an illness he does not realize he has, is slowly destroying what "brain function" he has left. The revolving door of uncertainties has stripped Joe of his dignity one horrific and painful experience at a time. Yet, Joe doesn’t remember these consequences and continues making the same bad choices again and again. He doesn't have a rear view mirror.
In order to keep our own health intact, we are forced to help Joe from a distance. Would I be forced to abandon support with my son if he were dying of cancer? If I abandoned a loved one with a serious physical challenge, I would be arrested. But in our case, we are counseled to set healthy boundaries and turn our back on a family member when they are at their worse! THIS IS WRONG!
Joe was diagnosed with a serious brain disorder when he was a small child. During these years, he had many supports in place under the medical model. His Father and I traveled to other cities, even out of state to see the best specialist we could locate. We searched everywhere for solutions, since Joe had trouble sleeping, regulating his moods, extreme hyperactivity and horrendous rage attacks that seemed more like seizures than a temper tantrum. We researched every alternative treatment and therapy available to find solutions to help our son settle down enough to stay 'in a classroom' much less "sit in a desk."
In Joe's early years, he was always moving ... he never stopped bouncing, jumping, running, skipping, rocking, etc. Joe appeared to be the energizer bunny.
Slowly over the years, doctors did discover a combination of medications that helped. By the time Joe was 16, he was working on obtaining his pilot’s license and had earned special certifications that would “in our minds” no doubt help jump start his career. Joe was a gifted, a talented young man with great charm and good looks.
Now, all of that potential is being swept up in a psychotic hurricane! Just 4 years out of high school, Joe is defeated. His way of coping is to NOT take the medications that stop his mania and delusions. He is trying his best to be a productive citizen, working on goals that will give him stability; but his brain disease keeps getting in the way. Yet, there is no way to make Joe understand what is happening.
Joe's psychotic break coincided around the same time that I was diagnosed with debilitating autoimmune diseases. Finally desperate
and exhausted, my husband and I were encouraged by our son’s doctor to file
a "beyond control petition" in
the court system. We were hoping to save Joe from his own dangerous behavior. Yet,
instead of going to a hospital or treatment facility, he was ordered to jail,
punished for behaviors that were direct symptoms of his untreated brain
disease! During these hearings, we became traumatized of the inhumanity of the
adult system! We watched in terror as our gifted young son was usurer
into the court room in an orange jump suit, shackled and cuffed like a prisoner. THIS IS WRONG!
WHY WOULD A DOCTOR ADVISE PARENTS TO DO THIS? Because the behavioral health system fails to recognize individuals
who lack capacity to have informed consent. It is designed to punish behaviors ... not treat them!
Prior to Joe's 18th birthday, professionals encouraged us to forgive our son’s inappropriate
behaviors, to embrace each day as new, because he was unable to learn from his
consequences ... yet as an adult, we were told his only option was jail and that should
force him to hit bottom. Would doctors recommend this if he had cancer?
After Joe become an adult, his illness escalated
rapidly. During one extreme manic episode, Joe once traveled to another state to open a business that only existed
in his mind. He acquire speeding tickets, wreck cars and lost his driver's licence. He opened up credit card accounts he couldn't pay, destroying his credit. He move into apartments he couldn't afford and was evicted to the streets. We allowed him to move back home, only to be forced to ask him to leave again, due to his refusal to accept treatment and his threats against us.
Another time, while I attempted to help Joe be admitted to a
psychiatric hospital ‘voluntarily’ … he ran barefoot into the freezing night,
fearing the FBI would track his steps. All my son wants then and now is to be
a productive businessman … but his untreated brain disease and the horrific
consequences get in the way.
Finally one evening, in an angry manic rage, Joe cornered my husband and I into our bedroom demanding we sign a $10,000 business loan.
(In his mind, Joe believed he had created a computer operating system that would
revolutionize the world.) During Joe's verbal attack, I called the local crises line.
The trained operators were unable to reason with Joe, because he was too
sick! So instead of dispatching an ambulance, they called the police!
Across the US, everyday, law enforcement officers are placed
on the front lines as psychiatric medical providers! Police are not licensed to provide medical services. The police are NOT paid enough
nor have the resources to help families like ours in crisis! Too often, these
situations end up deadly and young individuals like my son who need medical care,
end up tazed, shot or killed!
These officers said, “your son is delusional and needs to be hospitalized.” But since Joe has
not actually threaten your life, he will not be admitted! They encouraged us to press criminal charges against Joe, hoping he would
eventually gain treatment through the back door of the justice system. (Joe was recently released from the state psychiatric hospital too soon, just as psychotic as he’d been before he was
hospitalized.)
Later that night, our very sick son was dragged out
of our home by 4 heavily armed officers … kicking, screaming and crying. He was removed like a criminal from
the only home he knew, into the freezing rain, with only his guitar and a laptop
hanging off his back! I sat for hours staring across the room, frozen in complete shock.
Even with the EPO in place, Joe refused to voluntarily go to
a hospital or a homeless shelter. Joe immediately became homeless! Within
days, his illness was much worse … he couldn't feed himself! He ended up
seeking shelter with drug dealers, which led to more life-altering
consequences.
Six months later, desperate and defeated, Joe finally broke the
DVO. During an angry rage, on a cold February morning, where I was too afraid to let Joe in, he threw a frozen yard ornament through a window in our front door. Joe's desperate cry for help occurred seconds after I had stepped away. A neighbor watched the entire event and called 911. Joe was quickly arrested.
Now, years later due to his DVO record, Joe cannot find a job!
Even if he could remain stable long enough for us to go to court to request for
his DVO record expunged, the DVO records remain in national data banks
forever. The current behavioral health system sets up the entire family to
fail. These laws establish to protect the public and a person's civil rights, actually backfire on person with a serious brain disease, destroying their will, destroying relationships
and destroying trust with law enforcement.
You cannot imagine the pain watching someone you love dismantled mentally and physically. It all began with not only Joe’s RIGHT TO SAY NO, but also the fact that Kentucky does not have transitional services governing adolescents with severe mental illness into the adult system. THIS IS WRONG!
If my son had diabetes and saw a doctor when he was twelve, would his medical treatment drastically change when he turned 18? In Kentucky, HIPPA mixed with civil liberties = deterioration.
At 22, Joe sits behind a computer in a small apartment communicating with the outside world in a way that no one would ever believe. He has become an angry, hostile and desperate young man.
Today was a mere example. Joe phoned a dozen times in a less than an hour. When I receive that many phones calls in a short time, I realize there is likely to be a crisis. I take a deep breath and dive in. The stress 'du jour' was that Joe had just had a visit from his community mental health provider. Apparently they had informed him that his SSI needed to be reevaluated. Since Joe was able to work quite a bit before he stopped taking his meds, he qualified for SSDI. Supplemental Disability Insurance, is similar to what a person receives after they retire. Neither of these checks are much, definitely not enough to live on. Yet, this small amount does help Joe to have his own apartment and to NOT live on the streets. In Joe’s mind his money was about to be stopped and he would indeed be homeless in the very near future. He brain was stuck in 'park mode.' In a panicked voice he screamed, “I cannot become homeless again! I would rather be dead.”
In Joe’s mission to reach me, he left voice mails and even text messages such as: “Homeless is for people that haven’t committed suicide yet. If I go homeless I’ll just go ahead and kill myself. You are a fucking bitch; you won’t even talk to your homeless son. I ought to kill you first before I kill myself. You are more of a virus to society than I am.”
Imagine receiving a text from your son or daughter from college like this? What would you do? Who would you call?
When I try to reason with Joe about taking his meds or taking control over the illness that is destroying his brain … I hear statements such as: “I do not need medications. They make me sleep and I am too busy to sleep. I have too much work to do”. Or … “I can’t go to college, I already know everything; what a waste of time that would be." Or ... “I can’t work for ____, I know more than everyone working there and they would all hate me” … and on it goes.
The only thing that will help Joe is long term Assisted Outpatient Treatment or AOT. Some will argue that psychotropic medications are also dangerous and can bring on horrible irreversible side effects. However, Joe will die young without help!
Bottom line, if Joe were under a doctor’s care and he was able to accept treatment, his future has hope. As it is now, we are all dying a slow death from the dysfunctional mental health system.
Julia Lish, a correctional officer, comforts an inmate during one his psychotic episodes. "Its going to be OK," she repeats as he cries and yells to the voices in his head. "They are rejects of society and warehousing them in prison isn't the way to go. Most of them don't have life sentences - they will get out some day." says psychologist Dr. Tanya Young. Locked down for 24 hours a day, many inmates spend their day staring out the window of their cell. "What do they do when they get out? There needs to be something else to absorb them or take them in," she adds. 